” And then they turn on Netflix and watch back to back episodes of Daredevil. And like with any mindset, it starts with a decision. For you it can be painting, creating a product, helping elderly, or anything you feel like doing.
Additionally, my entire value wasn’t predicated on whether I achieved my purpose or not.
Curiosity allowed me to follow diverse paths, none more right than the other.
It seems like every self-help blog and their mother harps on the idea of finding one’s purpose.
Without it, it seems like you lead a pretty meaningless life. And the implications of blockchain were fascinating.
I worked towards realizing this so-called calling of mine. But when life got in the way and I realized that editing resumes and cover letters and getting people jobs at large financial firms wasn’t actually what I wanted to spend my time doing, I thought I had failed. Not achieving my purpose sent me into a spiral of depression. If the meaning of life was to experience more awe, then all I had to do was stand still, watch and listen to the world around me. Okay I know this is starting to sound a little wishy washy. The main takeaway I got from this lecture was that life’s meaning shouldn’t be predicated on a singular, big, giant, all encompassing thing, which if you don’t have, your life becomes meaningless. Life is made up of those little moments of awe and wonderment.
Then when I was in the pits of depression, I just kept feeling sad that I wasn’t being able to make my purpose work. What was even stranger was that I had become blind to the fact that I actually didn’t like the work I had to do to “achieve my purpose.” I was so hellbent on making it work that I ignored all the signs that I wasn’t really happy. It’s the moments of silence when you’re watching the rain outside. It’s made up of the conversations between friends and family. The excitement in your brain when you finally get a topic. While admittedly I got lost in some of the various Chinese philosophers’ theories he presented, I did have some takeaways that I found useful. He also talks about how he always wants to do and create something. I’ve been following him for a year and a half now, and every time I watch his You Tube show, he’s doing something. But to be honest, it’s not what gives meaning to life. Emerson says: And I didn’t get that before I became more conscious of what I’m doing with my life. Another person who always makes himself useful is Casey Neistat. But when I recently ran into a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, the dots finally connected. And after he realized that in his thirties, he founded a company that turned him into a multi-millionaire.Add to that something you can also get paid for and you’ve basically hit the jackpot.And for a certain period of time, I thought I had found my purpose: to help young millennials (cause of course I had to help the millennials) find more fulfilling and financially secure careers (or in other words, I thought my purpose was helping others find their purpose. In reality, I ran towards helping others find their purpose because I failed to truly think about my own. For the longest time I found it difficult to explain the concept of usefulness and happiness. He also went to business school, and this is what he thought of his fellow MBA candidates: You can say that about all of us. Just make it a little bit better than before you were born. In the book, he writes about how he lived his life and how he found his calling.And while there is nothing inherently wrong with that, it only pushes aside the real work I had to do with myself. What am I willing to stand for and what am I willing to not tolerate in my life? But once I was done and looked at all the worlds, it all felt right. As I listened in closer and closer, I was waiting for that profound meaning at the end. And because I believe these traits are so fundamental to who I am, I shouldn’t try to change me. Instead, Puett suggests recognizing that we’re ascribing identity to idiosyncratic patterns, and that we do have the ability to break out of them.Before I went back to that Venn diagram (because I still thought I needed to figure out what my purpose was), I started somewhere more fundamental. It took me five hours of sitting on my bedside and looking at these generic lists of “values” I had Googled before I felt like I had made some progress. Now that I had my foundational values, I thought the next step was taking a stab at that Venn diagram again to find my purpose. Almost seemingly scripted, I went to two philosophy talks on campus. We are not defined by these patterns or anything for that matter.